As the baby boomer generation ages—and downsizes—more and more adult children will be tasked with going through their loved one’s belongings to decide what to do with everything. As more and more people downsize after retirement, china sets, furniture, heirlooms, and other belongings are often left behind and unwanted.
Traditionally, these items have been passed down to the next generation. But today, the next generation has different needs, tastes, and wants. As a result, there is a surplus of “stuff” baby boomers don’t need or have room for, and their adult children don’t want. Maybe that includes you.
This is an all too common problem with a few helpful solutions.
The thought of tossing a lifetime of belongings in the trash is more than many can bear, which explains the advent of the senior move management industry. Today, there are a plethora of professionals who can help your loved one go through each item to decide what should be kept, what should be given away, and what should go to charity or donated.
The cost of this professional service can be up to $5,000 for a large estate, but it eases the burden on the adult children and ensures the loved one’s wishes are listened to and honored.
Bear in mind, as the baby boomer generation ages, charities and nonprofits that typically accept used furniture and other belongings are faced with the burden of too much stuff. The dated styles baby boomers preferred during their prime don’t fit the tastes and needs of today’s generation. The current generation views belongings like furniture and dishes as functional and more disposable, better suited to their urban, fast-paced lives where minimalism and portability are more prized than sentimentality and tradition.
Another way to decrease the time and effort it takes to dispose of all your belongings is to be very clear about what you consider to be heirlooms and valuable items by indicating in your will, or in a separate writing ancillary to your will, exactly what’s important to you and what isn’t.
Most importantly, talk to your children or other heirs to see what they want and don’t want. And to make sure they know what’s important to you, and what isn’t. The more you can communicate about this now with your loved one’s, the better.
You may be surprised to discover that most family fights that break up families aren’t over money at all, but over the personal property of mom and dad that the kids fight over because there was not clear instructions.
As more baby boomers age and non-profits turn away dated donations, the need for thoughtful estate planning is greater than ever. A comprehensive estate plan can ensure your belongings either go to those who will cherish them or to charities that will benefit from them.
If you’re like me, you want to leave an inheritance for your children. It’s likely part of what you are working so hard to do. But, far too often, the way we leave those inheritances actually does more harm than good. Something no parent wants.
Giving outright ownership of our assets to the kids could put everything you’ve worked so hard to leave behind at risk. Why, how and what can you do about it?
Let me share with you the five reasons leaving an outright inheritance to your kids is a mistake and then show you the way to protect your kids’ inheritance for many, many generations.
- Your Child’s Future Divorce
According to current statistics, forty-two percent (42%) of our children will divorce during their lifetime. In most divorces property is divided evenly. So if you have a married child, or a child who will get married in the future, and you leave them an inheritance, and they later divorce, as much as half of their inheritance could go to their ex-spouse. You aren’t working as hard as you are to support your child’s future ex-spouse, right? Good news, there is an alternative!
- Extreme Debt/Bankruptcy
Your child may incur such extreme debt that the only possible relief will come through bankruptcy.
Possible causes of such debt are a business venture gone bad, a health event, such as addiction, mental illness, accident, or disease that results in either a temporary or permanent inability to work in combination with staggering medical bills, or an accident, resulting in judgment, as discussed below.
Bankruptcy does happen to good people and you can ensure that the inheritance you leave behind will never be at risk due to a mistake or health issue.
Unintended neglect that injures someone’s person or property could wipe out an inheritance you leave your children. For example, ACE Financial Services, Inc. in 2012 found these lawsuit judgments:
- $49 million in California for an automobile accident where the family of 21-year-old college student sued drivers of two vehicles involved in the multi-vehicle crash. The plaintiff’s counsel claimed one defendant was sleep-deprived, while the other was on their cell phone. The plaintiff was in a coma for one month and is expected to require lifetime 24-hour care.
- $20 million in Florida for an ATV accident where a teenage male was killed while riding an ATV on the neighbor’s property. The neighbor had invited him to drive the ATV, permitting him to operate it without proper safety equipment and without adult supervision. The teenage male struck a fence and was decapitated.
- $11.9 million in Florida for an internet defamation suit brought by a Florida consultant against a Louisiana woman for posting defamatory statements about the plaintiff on an internet bulletin board. The defendant called the plaintiff a “crook” and a “fraud.”
- $5.9 million in Maryland in a dog-bite case where a 16-month-old child was attacked and killed by a pit bull kept at the home of a family friend.
In the Florida ATV case, the defendants thought they were doing the neighbors’ son an act of kindness by allowing him the “fun” of driving the four-wheeler around the family property. Apparently, they didn’t tell the young man about the barb wire on the property. Their good intended neglect, resulting in the decapitation of their neighbor’s son, was not seen as good by the parents or the court, who ordered the $20 million judgment.
In my own personal life, a friend recently called me because he accidentally left a faucet running at a friends’ house where he was visiting and the resulting flood causes $413,000 in damage that the insurance company is now looking to collect. If he had an inheritance, it would be wiped out by this potential claim.
As we can see, well intended, but neglectful behavior on the part of your children could wipe out any inheritance you leave them.
I have many clients who tell me they do not trust their children to manage money. This could mean that their children are spendthrifts, unwise investors, or easily manipulated out of the money. And, the statistics support this for nearly 20% of inheritors.
According to Prof. Jay L. Zagorsky of Ohio State University, 40% of individuals inheriting less than $100,000 will spend or lose the entire inheritance and 18.7 % of individuals who inherit more than $100,000 will spend or lose the entire inheritance... It’s quite likely that if that inheritance was left in a different way those numbers would greatly improve. I’ll share more with you about that below.
- Lost Work Ethic:
My father once said, “Some people can’t handle prosperity.” He was right. In fact, most people cannot.
For example, Thomas Stanley and William Danko in their book, The Millionaire Next Door, uncovered research showing that children who received an inheritance were worth four-fifths less than others in their same profession who didn’t.
Vic Preisser, of the Institute for Preparing Heirs, says that unprepared children who inherit money are susceptible to excessive spending, identity loss, and guilt over receiving money they didn't earn. Preisser says, "In a year to 18 months, everything falls apart -- marriage, finances -- and if there is a drug problem it becomes worse." Thus leaving an outright inheritance to our kids, may do harm instead of good. But there is an alternative!
As we can see, an outright inheritance is NOT the best answer for your kids.
Most lawyers would tell you that the answer is to leave your kids’ their inheritance in a Trust and they’d be right, but they would likely still distribute that Trust outright to your kids at specific ages or stages.
We’ve got a plan for your family that is far, far better.
An alternative to an outright inheritance to your children (“outright” meaning they both personally own and can personally lose the inheritance) is to gift your assets to your children at the time of your death via a Beneficiary Vault Trust.
A Beneficiary Vault Trust can be drafted to give your children full control of their inheritance (if you choose), but ensure they never own the inheritance. And because the rule of law is you can’t lose what you never owned, you are gifting your children with airtight asset protection, of the kind they couldn’t give themselves at any price.
When you gift an inheritance to your children via a Beneficiary Vault Trust, the trustees of the trust own the property, not your children. Thus, if your children ever get divorced, file bankruptcy, or are ordered to pay damages in a lawsuit, they can’t lose the inheritance, simply because they never owned it.
You can use the Beneficiary Vault Trust as a vehicle for educating your children about investing, giving, and even business by allowing them to become a Co-Trustee of the Trust, with someone you’ve chosen and trust to support their education.
And you can even build in provisions to allow your child to become the Sole Trustee of the Trust or the right to become Sole Trustee at specific intervals, as well, giving them effective full control without the risk of ownership.
There are quite a few nifty additional ways we can structure this trust to meet the needs of your unique family and children.
When you come in for a Family Wealth Planning Session, if you desire to provide the most airtight form of asset protection for your child, and set up a structure that incentivizes them to invest and grow their inheritance rather than squander and waste it, we will discuss all the options with you then.
One of the benefits of a Family Wealth Planning Session is that you will get more financially organized than you ever have been before and understand all of the options for ensuring everything you are working so hard to leave behind to the people you love is handled with the ease, grace and care you desire.
This article is a service of Erik Hartstrom, Personal Family Lawyer,® who develops trusting relationships with families for life. That's why we offer a Family Wealth Planning Session,™ where we can review your family wealth needs and help identify the best strategies for you and your family. You can begin by calling our office today to schedule a time for us to sit down and talk because this planning is so important.
We all hate to think that something could happen to us, but we know it happens to others like us every day. We’ve all seen the news stories of moms and dads who leave their children with a babysitter, get into a terrible accident, and don’t make it home.
The babysitter calls and calls, but there is no one to answer. The police are summoned and the children have to be placed with Child Protective Services. It’s the thing every parent is most afraid of happening.
We’ve seen the stories of children placed in the care of people they barely know, just because they are related by blood, since there was no plan in place that dictated who would take on this incredible responsibility.
And we have seen the fallout from family fights created when mom and dad didn’t make a plan, and the family couldn’t agree on what would happen. Or in the worst case, what happens when there is no family available.
In all cases, it’s left up to a Judge to decide when mom and dad haven’t.
But even if you have a will tucked away somewhere, is that all your children need? Don't make these six mistakes:
1. Named a couple to act as guardians when you don’t really want both people in the couple and you haven’t said what should happen if the couple broke up or one of the partners in the couple died.
2. Only named one possible guardian. What if something happens to your first choice?
3. Have not considered financial resources when deciding who should raise your children. Your guardians do not have to (and often should not) be financial decision makers for your kids.
4. Only have a Will, which means the Court will distribute your money, it’s totally public and doesn’t protect your money from their divorce and lawsuits.
5. Did not exclude anyone who might challenge your guardian decisions or who you know you’d never want to care for your kids.
6. Only named guardians for the long-term and did not make any arrangements for the short term if you were in an accident. What would happen in those immediate hours until your permanent guardians could arrive?
Doctors and hospitals ignore directions from health care agents at their legal peril according to a recent appellate case, Stewart v. Superior Court.
After ignoring the direction from a patient’s health care agent, the hospital and doctors face claims for elder abuse, fraud by concealment, and medical battery. The appellate court held that elders have the right to autonomy in the medical decision-making process and that deprivation of this right can constitute actionable “neglect” under California’s elder abuse laws.
Anthony Carter, a 78-year-old man, named Maxine Stewart as his health care agent. When he was admitted to the hospital, he was advised to get a pacemaker to correct his irregular heartbeat and be placed in hospice care. His health care agent canceled the heart surgery, suspecting that the irregular heartbeat was caused by Anthony’s sleep apnea, and sought a second medical opinion.
The hospital, following the cancellation of the surgery, convened an ethics committee and decided to proceed with the surgery anyway. Sometime shortly after surgery, Anthony went into cardiac arrest, supposedly from complications with the pacemaker and ultimately died. Maxine sought legal help and now the appellate court has allowed her to proceed with her lawsuit against the hospital.
The takeaway for hospitals:
Ignoring directions from a valid health care agent can constitute “neglect” under California’s elder abuse laws, leading to claims of elder abuse, fraud by concealment, and medical battery.
The takeaway for patients:
You can protect yourself by naming a health care agent under a valid Advance Health Care Directive.
Grandparents are increasingly in the picture helping grandchildren with the skyrocketing costs of college. That help can be unintentionally negative if it impacts a child’s eligibility for need-based aid. Here are some strategies to make sure your financial assistance doesn’t end up costing your grandchild:
Using a 529 Account: Who owns it and When Distributions are made
The 529 account is a popular tax savings account lets you put money away for your child's or grandchildren’s educational needs. Under the guidelines of the Free Application for Federal Student Aid (or FAFSA), 529 accounts in a parents or child name will count as assets and may reduce the amount of aid for which the student is eligible. The College Board’s CSS Profile for financial aid has similar guidelines.
The important thing in setting up a 529 account then is who owns the account. Typically, you the grandparent should own the account. Care must be exercised however in how distributions are made from grandparent-owned 529 accounts because distributions from a grandparent to a grandchild are considered “untaxed income” and can reduce aid. If the child is not planning on attending graduate school, distributions can be made in the junior or senior year without penalty under the new “Prior-Prior” rules.
Direct gifts to the student or to the school are simple, but have a catch – they are also considered “unearned income” and can reduce the aid. But with the new “Prior-Prior” rules, gifts in the junior or senior year can be made without impacting aid. For freshman or sophomore years, gifts can be made to the parents which will have a smaller impact on aid than a direct gift to the child.
Find Them a Job
In 2016 a student can shelter $6,300 in income from the federal aid calculation. Besides cash, experience in the workforce has its own benefit. Find out what they're interested in doing, and look for opportunities for internships or starting positions with the people you interact with on a regular basis. Your circle of friends and acquaintances can be of tremendous help for a first-time job-seeker.
Use a Trust
You can create an education trust for your grandchild. This can be money you directly control while you're alive, and give directly to the student or parents (see above), and be set aside after you're gone to support the students further education. Funds set up correctly in a trust for the parents or grandchild won’t negatively impact a child’s eligibility for need-based aid. While it won’t have the tax savings of a 529 account, you’ll have more flexibility on where the funds can be used. Funds in a 529 account, for example, can only be used without penalty for tuition, fees, books, as well as room and board. An education trust can be designed to cover any expenses you deem appropriate – off-campus housing, transportation costs, tutors, travel, and more. And the funds in trust don’t have to stop when the child’s education is done, for example, they could be used to help buy a house or get a new business started.
Source: How Grandparents Can Help Pay for College